All Parents are not the same. All Children are not the same.

Jeremiah 31:29 NLT "The people will no longer quote this proverb: 'The parents eat sour grapes, but their children's mouths pucker at the taste.'
Jeremiah 31:30 NLT All people will die for their own sins -- those who eat the sour grapes will be the ones whose mouths will pucker.
Ezekiel 18:2 NLT "Why do you quote this proverb in the land of Israel: 'The parents have eaten sour grapes, but their children's mouths pucker at the taste'?
This is in stark contrast to the hadith, "The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother." ~ (Ahmad, Nasai)
Allah (swt) has said in His Sacred Holy Quran that, "No just estimate have they made of God, such as is due to Him: On the Day of Judgment the whole of the earth will be but His handful, and the heavens will be rolled up in His right hand: Glory to Him! High is He above the Partners they attribute to Him!" ~ HQ 39:67
In the end it does come to the reality of honor thy mother and thy father or reverence the wombs that bore you, " 12 "Honor your father and mother. Then you will live a long, full life in the land the LORD your God will give you." ~ Exodus 20:12 and " O mankind! reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single person, created, of like nature, His mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women;- reverence God, through whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (That bore you): for God ever watches over you." ~ Surahtul Nisa 1
But, conversely it is necessary for parents to honor their children. While it is important for children to honor their parents; it is equally important for parents to honor their children by providing safe environment, great education, deen of Islam, truth of all the scriptures revealed by Allah (God), the best lessons in morals and ethics, healthy diet & nutrition...so that those children have the opportunity to grow up and succeed and reciprocate the nurturing that the parents gave them when the parents reach old age. Children just can not be held in careless ways while parents enjoy immunity in the 5th Commandment of the 10 Commandments. They have a duty to practice Planned Parenting before pregnancies or the bringing of children into this world.
"The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years, if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms. No soul shall have a burden laid on it greater than it can bear. No mother shall be Treated unfairly on account of her child. Nor father on account of his child, an heir shall be chargeable in the same way. If they both decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due consultation, there is no blame on them. If ye decide on a foster-mother for your offspring, there is no blame on you, provided ye pay (the mother) what ye offered, on equitable terms. But fear God and know that God sees well what ye do." ~ HQ 2:233
All in all we can't lose sight of the day when: "At length, when there comes the Deafening Noise,- That Day shall a man flee from his own brother, And from his mother and his father, And from his wife and his children. Each one of them, that Day, will have enough concern (of his own) to make him indifferent to the others. Some faces that Day will be beaming, Laughing, rejoicing. And other faces that Day will be dust-stained, Blackness will cover them: Such will be the Rejecters of God, the doers of iniquity". ~ HQ 80:33-42

Perpetual Freshness

Reflection. The Quran has indicated that the ones likened to Pearls, Gems and Corals are of "perpetual freshness" upon reflection one of it's (perpetual freshness') elements appears to be eternal healing. Thus, not only the removal of dirt, filth, etc. from them (perpetually), but, the removal of sickness, disease, etc. (perpetually) creating that condition of freshness for eternity. Of course, all by Allah (swt) and the circumstances and realities of their existences in Paradise.

Recoveries. Being able to recover from illnesses and problems is a valuable gift from Allah (swt), which he allows us to enjoy here on earth...and it is a semblance of what takes place in Jannah. (I have not actually been to Paradise...only speculating) Though, earth may not be the place to request perpetual freshness from Allah (swt), we do have a semblance of that requisition in the wudus and ghuslas that we make each day before our salaats. But, certainly it would be safe to request of Allah (swt) perpetual freshness in Paradise (Jannah) in the next life.

Be careful of defiling others blog. Unfortunately, there are people who like to purify themselves through defiling others or using them as "trash" or waste receptacles. Why would touching the Ark of the Covenant definitely kill the person blog. No doubt, some individuals and principalities would use another as a bather, washbasin, sink, bath water and a toilet, yet, there must be a tremendous cost for that game. Healing in Religion blog.

Najwa, Gharrar and Laghwa

The believer is one that does not engage in gharrar (buying & selling when person doesn't know wht they've bought or sold); najwa (involving the Nabi or muslim in a plan they know nothing about. Sometimes bad even if plan is for good); & laghwa (using ambiguous speech) Allah has said that there is no Laghwa in Paradise. I believe that doing these 3 things will cause the doer to lose Paradise (Jannah, The Gardens).
‎"They shall there exchange, one with another, a (loving) cup free of frivolity (laghwa), free of all taint of ill."~Holy Quran 52:23
{Laghwa means vain talk or obscene language, but, also connotes ambiguity.}

‎"Turnest thou not thy sight towards those who were forbidden secret counsels (najwa) yet revert to that which they were forbidden (to do)? And they hold secret counsels among themselves for iniquity and hostility, and disobedience to the Apostle. And when they come to thee, they salute thee, not as God salutes thee, (but in crooked ways): And they say to themselves, "Why does not God punish us for our words?" Enough for them is Hell: In it will they burn, and evil is that destination!
O ye who believe! When ye hold secret counsel (najwa), do it not for iniquity and hostility, and disobedience to the Prophet; but do it for righteousness and self- restraint; and fear God, to Whom ye shall be brought back.
Secret counsels (najwa) are only (inspired) by the Evil One, in order that he may cause grief to the Believers; but he cannot harm them in the least, except as God permits; and on God let the Believers put their trust."~Holy Quran 58:8-10

‎"Muslim relates from Abu Hurairah that, "The Messenger(saws) of Allah (swt) prohibited sales of whatever a pebble thrown by the seller hits and sales in which there is a chance of risk (gharrar)"
(Nasir al-Mutarriza:) Gharrar is chance or risk meaning it is not known whether it will come to be or not, such as selling fish in the water or birds on the wing. It includes transactions of unknown things, the particulars of which are not fully comprehended by the buyer and seller (al Mughrib fi tartib al-Mur'rib (y94), 2.100).

Gharrar is also mentioned at Holy Quran 7:22, "So by deceit (bi ghuruwr) he brought about their fall: when they tasted of the tree, their shameful parts became manifest to them, and they began to sew together the leaves of the Garden over their bodies. And their Lord called unto them: "Did I not forbid you that tree, and tell you that Satan (Aoudhubillahi) was an avowed enemy unto you?"

It is probably safe to say that the only ones that are free to practice Najwa would be Allah (swt) Himself and His Malaika (Angels). But, it is permissible for doing good and righteousness.

(Suratul Insan Ayat 16)³³³¹¹³³²

16. Crystal-clear, made of silver: they will determine the measure thereof (according to their wishes). ~ Holy Quran
It is apparent here that measuring is a characteristic of the people of Paradise (Heavens, The Gardens, Al Jannah). But, does it not seem paradoxical that in the very place where there is infinite bounties, (without measure and rivers flowing with incorruptible milk, water, honey and wine), that anyone would feel the need to measure anything? But, Heaven is not being a pig. Eatting and eatting and drinking and drinking with hungers never being satisfied and thirsts never being quenched...Heaven is not a place that produces pig like behaviors and characteristics in it's inhabitants. {Of course, these are my beliefs I have not actually been there yet, insha Allah} Perhaps, it is as simple as knowing that measuring too little would be annoying and a nuisance...like not being satisfied, nor relieved of a need; and measuring too much would be uncomfortable (like eatting so much that the stomach begins to hurt and it feels stretched (because it actually is) and the person has to loosen the belt and is so uncomfortable that they cannot even be productive until the pain of the stretched stomach goes away. I infer from this ayat that this is something that the people of Paradise (who are the highly evolved beings of Allah and of superior civility and society than we have ever known on earth) do not wish to experience, by the portion of the ayat that reads, "they will determing the measure thereof (according to their wishes). ~ Holy Quran" In so many ways Allah teaches us that gluttony is not becoming of Paradise, especially when he teaches the ayat, "That I have enjoined upon you fasting that you may restrain yourselves. ~ Holy Quran." A glutton is someone that eats or consumes even when they are not hungry, but, also would describe a person who's hunger and thirst is never satisfied. Food and drink or water are not the only things that people hunger and thirst for, and thus, are not the only things that people can become excessive about and so need to practice restraints about. Why then is it necessary for Allah to teach mankind and the Alamin to restrain themselves? Is it because it was the appetites of Father Adama (saws) and Mother Huwa (saws) unchecked by restraint that brought about our downfall from heaven, in the first place. Thus, this subtle suggestion of the inhabitants of Paradise in the ayat, "they will determing the measure thereof (according to their wishes). ~ Holy Quran" really speaks to the very nature that brought about our parents downfall from heaven in the first place....and He (Allah (swt)) wants us to undo that nature, that is against the nature of Paradise, within us.